....because the finest come in small packages
I learned a huge lesson this week based on perception.
By mid-week I found my internal dialogue ping-ponging:
- You need to be more patient.
- I didn't feed her enough veggies today.
- How many more times to I need to tell her to BRUSH HER TEETH?!
- I completely overeacted to the yogurt spilling on the floor. Why didn't I guide her in cleaning up instead of getting so upset?
- She's only five. She's only five. She's only five.
- I forgot to wash her favorite pants.
- I just told her no TV, and then I turned it on 30 minutes later just to get dinner done. Conflicting messages..awesome parenting.
- We haven't read the last few nights. I'm so lazy. I'm a terrible mom.
- Praise more. Criticize less...okay okay try again tomorrow.
You can only imagine that this internal dialogue doesn't produce positivite energy or make it easy to turn things around. While I felt like a terrible mom, I learned that my child's perception was much different. As we were getting ready for school yesterday she looked at me with her big brown eyes, produced the sweetest smile and said "Mama, I love you exactly as you are. You are the most huggable, snuggable, cutest Mama in the whole universe"! and to add to that, at bedtime prayers she gave gratitude for a Mama who played, painted, danced and made cookies with her. Both of these times were followed by big bear hugs.
What I would like to share with you is the power of a child's perception. They see us as we are, not as what we are afraid we are. I learned that children are the most forgiving creatures and there is no other being that will love you as much as your little one. See yourself in your child's eyes, because that is the truth and you are enough.
Below is a wonderfully written piece by Dr. Brene Brown from her book, Daring Greatly. It is a great reminder that our children will see themselves as we see ourselves.. Being good to ourselves makes us better parents. For a printable version click here.
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